There is not a single risk factor that is strong enough to cause a young person to have sexualized behaviors (PSB) with another child. Usually, there are at least 6 or 7 factors involved. To get a full assessment of a child’s overall functioning, I would recommend meeting with a Psychologist who specializes in this […]
It is really important to remember both sides of the coin as you heal from trauma or sexual abuse. It was a really, really bad thing AND… I/You/We will be okay AND….
These are some short phrases you can say to yourself to help you when you are struggling with common parenting issues. If they are helpful, repeat them over and over as much as needed. 1. I have to raise the kid I have, not the kid I was. This is a new day and […]
What Caregivers Can Say (to speed up the treatment process for problematic sexual behavior) By Sheryl Overby, MS NCC LIMHP Woodhaven Counseling 402-592-0328 When children or teens start treatment for having problems with their sexual behavior, it can be really scary and confusing. If they have feel supported by their caregivers and have permission to […]
The Link Between Sexual Abuse and Sexual Offending Sheryl Overby MS LIMHP It’s really difficult to know if you should be worried about your child after they have been sexually abused in some way. It’s important not to over react, or under react. You should be prepared to have issues with sexuality in some […]
Release Stress in a Helpful Way Adapted directly From “What to do when your Temper Flares” by Dawn Huebner, Ph.D. Active Method Stress is like fuel in your body, you need to get rid of it by burning it off. One way is to have physical activity, something that gets your heart rate up and breaks […]
MANAGING BEHAVIOR DURING SOCIAL INTERACTIONS Sheryl Overby, MS LIMHP There are 3 main types of ways to help kids with their social interactions with peers. Pre-teaching, coaching in the moment and giving feedback. All social interactions between children improve based on trial and error, and some kids need extra help from adults to understand their […]
Mantras for Parents of Teens Sheryl Overby, MS LIMHP 1. We have to raise the kids we have, not the kids we were This is a new day and age, and although we think the way we grew up or was parented worked pretty good, it most likely will not work in today’s society, culture […]
If you are considering getting treatment for a child with Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB), these are some of the things I think all caregivers should know. 1. You are not alone, you are not the cause. Realizing that your child has a sexual behavior problem can be one of the most difficult things a parent […]
Possible Reason Why a Protective Caregiver Might Deny Signs of Sexual Abuse Sheryl Overby, MS LIMHP There are many many reasons why someone would question whether or not a person that they know, love and trust would sexually abuse a child. Sexual abuse is one of the most hated social problems in our society, and […]
Maximizing Sexual Respect for Children under 10 Sheryl Overby MS NCC LIMHP If everyone in the world has sexual respect, then there would be no sexual abuse. One of the best ways to help kids have healthy ideas about sexuality is to teach sexual respect. The world and its “pornified culture” will have a huge […]
NO MEANS NO Stop – means no Turning away – means no I don’t want to – means no Shoving you away – means no Leave me alone – means no Not touching you – means no I’m not ready – means no Playing dead / not moving – means no I […]
Sheryl Overby’s Personally Recommended Resources I keep a running lost of resources that are I use personally and recommend often to other professionals or consumers/clients. If you know of an especially great resource, please let me know via email. We need all the help we can get and sharing resources is something we can […]
Encouraging Healthy Sexual Boundaries In the Foster Home SHERYL OVERBY MS NCC LIMHP www.sheryloverby.com Woodhaven Counseling Associates 402-592-0328 All humans have to learn boundaries, either by modeling or teaching in early childhood; it simply is not something hardwired into the brain. It would be nice if all the youth who come to your home had […]
THERE IS NO PROOF THAT IF A CHILD IS SEXUALLY ABUSED, THEY WILL GROW UP TO BECOME A SEXUAL OFFENDER Either as child, teen or adult. Some children do react to their sexual abuse by doing sexual things to other children. This is called sexually reactive. These kids can be helped by counseling and […]
A child who has been sexually abused will benefit from clear guidelines that set the rules for their behavior. These kinds of rules provide the structure, comfort and security all children need to grow into healthy adults. Sexual Respect Suggestive or obscene language is not allowed from anyone. It is sometimes a trigger for […]
Updated November 2019 A child or teen who has acted out sexually will benefit from clear guidelines that set the rules for their behavior. These kinds of rules provide the structure, comfort and security all children need to grow into healthy adults. This is a very long list and does not apply to every family, […]
Let’s be honest, the rules about private parts are usually not talked about and not talking about them makes a child vulnerable. You know there are unspoken rules about all sorts of things: what to do in church, when and where to pass gas, how to pick your nose, and when to ask a […]
I basically have three avenues for employment; doing clinical work at Woodhaven Counseling Associates, providing Training and Education for Lutheran Family Services’ RSafe Program, and doing other types of training and workshops in the community. It’s a little tricky to know where I am located on any given day, but here are the various ways […]